“It felt like a hammer was pounding inside me,” Emily recounted, thinking back to her first intimate encounter with her partner, Ryan. After several dates, they were eager to deepen their connection. “Following some foreplay, I was wet and ready. But as soon as my underwear came off, he started thrusting his fingers inside me with no finesse, completely ruining the mood.” Luckily for Emily, Ryan was open to her feedback, and their night (and sex life, especially fingering) improved from there.
If you’ve ever found yourself in a situation like Emily or Ryan, keep reading. Mastering these popular fingering techniques can enhance your skills in the bedroom and help bring on intense orgasms.
Proven Fingering Techniques
- Unlock the G-Spot
Achieving a G-spot orgasm can be challenging with penile stimulation due to the necessary angle. Luckily, fingers are ideal for reaching this sensitive area. “Insert your fingers into the vagina with your fingertips facing upwards, and use a ‘come-hither’ motion to locate the G-spot,” advises experts. “The G-spot feels slightly bumpier than the surrounding tissue and is roughly the size of a dime.” Maintain stimulation on this spot, and an orgasm is within reach. - Two Hands, Double the Pleasure
Fingering isn’t just about internal stimulation; the clitoris, with its 8,000 nerve endings, should definitely be part of the action. Many women can’t reach orgasm from penetration alone, so including clitoral stimulation increases the chances of success. Use one hand to penetrate the vagina and massage the G-spot, while the other hand rubs, massages, and strokes the external clitoris. “Gently knead the clitoris between your ring and middle finger while penetrating with the other hand for maximum pleasure,” suggest experts. Experiment with different pressures and rhythms until you find what brings her the most satisfaction. - Clitoral Massage
Direct clitoral stimulation is often the most effective way to bring a woman to orgasm. “About 75 percent of women require clitoral stimulation to reach climax,” experts note. There are numerous techniques for clitoral stimulation, and each woman has her own preferences. “You can try moving your finger in circles over the clitoral hood, stroking up and down over the clitoris, or moving your fingers side to side. You can also lift the clitoral hood and gently stroke the clitoris itself,” they suggest. Experiment with different pressures, strokes, and speeds to discover what feels best for your partner.
Pro Keys
- Use Lubricant
The vulva is quite sensitive, and prolonged stimulation can cause discomfort, even with natural lubrication. Using some lube can greatly enhance the experience. For an extra boost of pleasure, consider trying a cannabis-infused lubricant. - Communication is Crucial
Understanding your partner’s preferences and how she likes to be touched is essential for her pleasure. Don’t hesitate to ask her what she enjoys, how much penetration she prefers, and which parts of her clitoris are most sensitive. - Begin Gently
Every woman is unique, but most will appreciate a slow, gentle start. Take your time teasing her by gradually massaging every part of the vulva, including the inner and outer labia, the clitoral hood, and the sensitive vaginal opening.
The Sweet Moment
Regardless of the techniques you employ, maintain momentum once you discover a rhythm that satisfies your partner. Continue intensifying her pleasure until you sense her beginning to tremble. When her thighs start to quiver, she’s nearing climax. If you find it challenging to sustain the rhythm, consider incorporating a vibrator on her clitoris while you penetrate her with your fingers. These fingering techniques are effective independently, but they can also be combined with oral sex, anal play, and the use of sex toys like the Lioness Vibrator to elevate pleasure to new heights.
